For women, getting angry is socially unacceptable, even when the anger is over violence, discrimination, misogyny, and other forms of oppression. Anger is unacceptable because angry women are women in touch with their passion and power, especially in relation to men, which threatens the entire patriarchal order. It’s unacceptable because it forces men to confront the reality of male privilege and women’s oppression and their involvement in it, even if only as passive beneficiaries. Women’s anger challenges men to acknowledge attempts to trivialize oppression with “I was only kidding.” And women’s anger is unacceptable to men who look to women to take care of them, to prop up their need to feel in control, and to support them in their competition with other men. When women are less than gracious and good-humored about their own oppression, men often feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, at a loss, and therefore vulnerable.
Be not simply good; be good for something.
HAHAHA! Oh Grammar. I see you coming here, teaching lessons. :) My mother tried to teach me that one.
I also learned that you should always say you’re doing “well” to adults especially if they’re crochety old men because if you say “good” they lecture you on the above and if you say “awesome” you run the risk of them getting all angry and origin-of-the-word and religious on your ass.
Although if you say you’re doing “well” the same person might lecture you on how other people misuse “awesome” anyway as though that’s a reward for your proper grammar.
Not that that’s happened to me more than once before while working at Safeway or anything.
I’m a good person. In most ways. But I’m beginning to think that being a good person in most ways doesn’t count for anything very much, if you’re a bad person in one way.
When goodness removes itself, the space it occupies corrodes and becomes evil, and maybe splits apart and multiplies.
Elphaba from Gregory Maguire’s Wicked discussing Evil.